I echo what everyone else said... you most definitely did the right thing.  You already gave her some money - so you deserve to be able to keep the rest (and your dad would want you to keep it)

@Amanda, we signed it over to her because I guess we were afraid of losing our mother as well, and we were young and were naive.

My dad asked me to "borrow" a portion of the inheritance after I had already given him $8k.  Around the same time, my mom had asked me to co-sign on a loan for some investment property in Last Vegas back in 2004 (I think we all know what happened there) because her credit was so bad and she couldn't get approved. 

Luckily, I said no to both, but it was one of the hardest things for me to do.   My dad handled it well, but my mom was obviously upset.   She couldn't believe that I wouldn't do this for her. 

I'm so thankful that I did!  Saying NO empowers you.   Hopefully, your mom will get over it.   Even if she doesn't, you can be assured that you made the right decision. 

Sounds like you made the right decision - right but not easy.... if you need anything feel free to shot me an email.  :)

Thanks so much!

Wow! That is a sticky one.  I'm assuming your sister is younger than you are if you have to sign for her?  Hard to give any advice without knowing the whole story.  Sounds like you know what the right answer is but you are unsure how to follow-through with it.  Best wishes and hope it turns out for the best.  

Yeah she is younger. My dad left everything to us because my mother is a horrible greedy woman and they divorced when I was 8.

Anyways, I told her no today, she told me she's never talking to me again. Problem solved I guess...

Thanks everyone! I will get past this.

This is a tricky one. We have a couple of relatives who are just constantly asking for money. We had to start telling them that we don't have any spare money to give them, which actually is true right now.

Yeah it is tricky. I'm pretty upset that she hid this money from us as well. She just sent me a text one minute ago that asked me if I was done filling out the transfer forms...

I'm hoping this is in the right section for my question. This is probably too much information for Yakezie, but I feel that all of you are great advice givers, and I want advice from the best and people who understand.

My father passed away almost 4 years ago. He left everything to me and my sister, but my mom kept on asking us to sign everything over to her. I was 18 when he passed, and didn't think my mom was out to get me.

I thought I had given her everything, but the other day she told me there was more and asked me to sign over the rest to her. I told her I won't sign over my sister's half of this (I'm the custodial signature for my sister on this account).

What do I do? I know the obvious answer is that I'm an enabler and should stop, but I'm feeling stuck. I don't want to lose nearly the last piece of family that I have.

Can anyone relate to this? How should I tell her no? She said she needs the money for her bills, but I have my own bills to pay also so that doesn't make any sense. In the past I didn't care about the money because of course I'd rather have my dad back, but now I think she's just being ridiculous.