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Romantic Finance – Are you traditional, modern or combo?

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8:12 am
January 12, 2011


Finance Fox.ca

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We've all been on dates and we all know talking about finances in any romantic situation is not easy.

What do you do? How do you react? Are you modern? Traditional? Combo?

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This is a very interesting topic I think, yet very sensetive.

 

So what are you?

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8:59 am
January 12, 2011


Invest It Wisely

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In a date context, I think whoever did the inviting should pay, and if there is ambiguity the guy should just take the lead. Later on if eating at restaurants becomes a regular occurrence, splitting or rotating is a fair arrangement.

9:03 am
January 12, 2011


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Left you a couple comments :)

4:46 pm
January 12, 2011


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I am more of a combo. I am traditional in that I don't mind paying but I do like for her to offer to pay. Goof post btw. I never would have thought to put the two together.

 

 

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8:19 am
January 13, 2011


Finance Fox.ca

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Thanks for your comment Mark.

 

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5:12 pm
January 15, 2011


Derek@LifeAndMyFinances

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When I was dating, I always liked to be the one that paid. But, when my date wanted to go to someplace more expensive, and I said it wasn't worth it, she would be the one paying. Ha, I don't like to admit it, but that's how it was. I think I may have flashed some coupons on a few of those dates as well. Somehow, I got a wife out of it! :)

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5:35 pm
January 15, 2011


Barbara Friedberg

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Fox said:

We've all been on dates and we all know talking about finances in any romantic situation is not easy.

What do you do? How do you react? Are you modern? Traditional? Combo?

Read My View:

http://www.financefox.ca/index…..anceintro/

 

Please share your views. Leave a comment and follow me on twitter.

This is a very interesting topic I think, yet very sensetive.

 

So what are you?

Fox


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9:08 pm
January 15, 2011


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Ha ha, I think if you invite you pay and a man should never be expected to pay…. It just helps reinforce gender stereotypes that we need to work hard to break.

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10:12 am
April 1, 2011


Roger the Amateur Financier

Northwestern Pennsylvania

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I tend to more a traditionalist than anything; I frequently pay for dinner when my fiancee and I go out (and did so even more back when we were first starting to date), I will pay for movies or other events that we go to see, and I do tend to buy her little treats from time to time.  She'll gladly split the bill with me most of the time, but personally, I like to be an old fashioned lover boy when it comes to her.

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11:37 am
April 1, 2011


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Not sure how I missed this thread from January…..

 

I think that it depends on the stage of the relationship.

in my view, the guy always pays for the first date. It doesn't matter if she makes $300,000 a year and has a $2,000,000 net worth, and he makes $20,000 a year and is in debt with a negative net worth. He's the guy, and he should pay. She's the girl, and she deserves to be treated on the first date. It serves the guy well to just assume he's going to pay, and not overthink it. Just pay and be a gentleman. Better to offend by trying to pay than by trying to get out of paying!

 

However, once the relationship goes beyond the first four or five dates, or some period of time where the two people start seeing each other exclusively, there should be some fairness involved. Sharing the bills seems fair to me.

 

When married, I think joint finances make sense, though I realize that's not agreed by everyone. Just seems like it's important to be a team, working toward the same goals and going all in together. And this doesn't mean that it's only the guy's responsibility to make money, and the wife automatically has no responsibility. I don't think in this day and age it should be assumed and expected that the guy automatically has the financial burden on him just because he's a guy. After all, more than 50% of undergraduate and graduate degrees now are awarded to women.

 

It's a team effort, and if they allocate responsibilities where only one person makes the money, that's totally cool. Perhaps it's whatever works for each couple, as everyone has a unique situation of their own. What works for one couple might be different from what works for another, in lieu of hardened stereotypes.

 

So, I guess I'm a mix of old-fashioned and modern.

 

Interesting topic. I stated my views on this same topic in a post dedicated to paying on the first date, and it evoked some strong opinions http://squirrelers.com/2011/02…..first-dat/

 

Hopefully nobody took things too seriously :)

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9:37 am
April 2, 2011


Kevin @ Avant

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I'm more traditional.  I usually pay for everything when we go out, but my girlfriend will usually pay for small little things (coffee, snacks, lunch, etc..)

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2:41 pm
April 4, 2011


Her Every Cent Counts

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I always think the check should be split, either down the middle, or based on what you ordered.

As a woman, accepting payment from a man means that they will expect something in return, now or shortly down the road. I'd rather pay for myself, and keep things open, without pressure like that.

 

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6:13 am
April 5, 2011


Jason@LiveRealNow

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Her Every Cent Counts said:

As a woman, accepting payment from a man means that they will expect something in return, now or shortly down the road. 

 

That means you've been dating the wrong men.  :)

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