One reason why people start hating their jobs is because they’ve been passed over for some less-than-deserving mortal. Others start resenting their jobs because they didn’t get the raise they were expecting, despite the new hire making 20% more! Bitterness pervades, and things go downhill quickly if the situation is not addressed.
So what happens when your manager clearly states in a meeting that you will be put up for promotion next year and next year comes and your name is not on the congratulatory firm-wide e-mail list? Of course you go a little bezerk and storm out of the office not knowing when you’ll return, if at all.
You can fire off an angry e-mail or make a nasty phone call, but that’s not a good idea. You might even want to take a visit to the pellet gun section at Wal-Mart, but that’s not a good idea. Instead, breathe deeply and contemplate. Despite your manager’s lies poor guidance, you are probably at fault. There is a disconnect between what your manager sees in you, and what you see of yourself. It’s called being delusional and something must change.
The ultimate responsibility is on you to have a congruent vision with your manager.
THINGS TO DO IF YOU GET PASSED OVER AND NOT PAID
Work is essentially an “at will” contract where you can come and go as you please, and the employer can fire or keep you at its discretion. Company loyalty is so 20th century thanks to the eradication of pensions and the globalization of the work force which is creating tremendous competitive pressures for developed countries.
Here are some things to consider if you find yourself in such a state:
* Update your resume and make a list of your most important connections. Always be prepared to move companies. Your battle gear is your resume, your connections, your wardrobe and your good looks. Everything should be up to date, including your contacts so that you don’t look like a jerk pinging them out of the blue when you need something.
* Schedule a meeting with your manager to find out why. You need to understand crystal clear the reasons why you didn’t get paid or promoted so you can rectify them. If you do, and you still don’t get promoted a year later, then you need to raise the issue to your boss’s superior or quit. Documentation is important, which is why you must document everything your manager has said and all the good things you’ve done in your reviews, so that when do-do hits the fan, you’ve got proof.
* Do not go whine to the HR department. Human Resources is there for the company, not for you. Don’t be naive to think that HR is there to serve you. HR is there to protect the company’s rump in this litigious world. Do not confide too much to HR. Even in cases where you’ve clearly been harassed or abused, you should probably seek console if you are really serious. HR has a duty to report back everything you say to your manager. They will mark down all your complaints in a way that protects the firm from a lawsuit, and not you.
* Put everything in writing. If it’s not clear by now, you must put every promise, accomplishment, goal in writing. When the inevitable disappointment comes, you can bring up that piece of writing and ask them to rectify the situation. It is NOT good enough to have a handshake agreement with your manager or new employer about a promotion or compensation level.
* Moonlight as a release. If you aren’t getting recognized at work, do something else that gives you satisfaction. If you find yourself putting in more hours than average and really caring about the company while the company is not showing you equal love, find something else to care about for goodness sake! Mentally treat your company as just a paycheck to allow you to do what you truly love. That love can be exploring the world, painting, dancing, writing, teaching, volunteering and any one of numerous things that are infinitely more interesting than your job.
* Wait until the right time to make a move. The most difficult time to find a job is in the 4th quarter. The reason is because budgets are already spent, and management is usually looking to release the underperformers. As a result, headcount availability is very limited. It is best to wait out your misery until February or later of next year where budgets are fresh and optimism is high. You should also consider moving only when you’ve got that written offer (there we go again on having everything in writing). The last thing you want to do is leave your company in a tough economic environment with no back-up plan and not enough money to survive!
* Discover your responsibility. We all have a responsibility to find and do what we enjoy doing. We don’t live in Kabul, Afghanistan or Pyongyang, North Korea where our freedom is restricted. There is absolutely no reason to settle for a job we hate. It costs next to nothing to start a company (unless you live in California, Illinois, New Jersey, New York where they will tax you to death). There are plenty of opportunities out there, you just have to keep on looking. You wouldn’t settle for a nasty spouse, why would you settle for a nasty boss or job?
THERE’S NOBODY TO BLAME BUT OURSELVES
Being passed over and not paid is extremely demotivating. I know this feeling well, having been disappointment twice this decade. Each time was like drinking a jolt of sorrow as I asked myself “Why not me?“. Eventually, I did get promoted, just not in the time frame I wanted. Tough crap, I always thought to myself as I booked an extra vacation week to deal.
It’s always good to put things into perspective. Things such as a 8.6% unemployment rate and starving children around the world are important to understand. Then there are the hoards of people who are just killing it, who are no different from you that makes you again ask, “Why them, and not me?”
We can sulk, whine, protest and cry all we want. Or we can do something about our situation. Nobody is going to save us from our sad state except for ourselves. Use the disappointment from work as motivation to do better and greater things!
RECOMMENDATION FOR BUILDING WEALTH
Manage Your Finances In One Place: The best way to become financially independent and protect yourself is to get a handle on your finances by signing up with Personal Capital. They are a free online platform which aggregates all your financial accounts in one place so you can see where you can optimize. Before Personal Capital, I had to log into eight different systems to track 25+ difference accounts (brokerage, multiple banks, 401K, etc) to manage my finances. Now, I can just log into Personal Capital to see how my stock accounts are doing and how my net worth is progressing. I can also see how much I’m spending every month.
The best tool is their Portfolio Fee Analyzer which runs your investment portfolio through its software to see what you are paying. I found out I was paying $1,700 a year in portfolio fees I had no idea I was paying! There is no better financial tool online that has helped me more to achieve financial freedom.
Negotiate A Severance Package: Don’t quit your job, get laid off and negotiate a severance package instead. Negotiating a severance enabled me to receive six years worth of living expenses from a company I dedicated 11 years of my life to. If I had quit, I wouldn’t get any severance, deferred compensation, medical benefits, job assistance training or unemployment benefits and neither will you. I believe so strongly in the message of never quitting that I spent a couple years writing this 100-page book entitled, “How To Engineer Your Layoff: Make A Small Fortune By Saying Goodbye.” I’m absolutely certain this book will help you recognize your rights as an employee and break free from the corporate grind to do something you truly want to do.
Photo: Down and Out in 2015!
Regards,
Sam
I can totally related to the post as I got passed over for a promotion at my first job. However, I had my plan B ready which gave me the PLEASURE of resigning the very next day after I was informed I was not selected.
When my manager informed me that someone else got the promotion, he refused to name the person who got it. After I resigned the next day, I returned the favor when he asked me where I was heading using the same wording: “I prefer to keep it private for now”.
Great moment in my career history I tell ya….
That is awesome you had a plan B so quick! Are you still at the plan B company? And how long did it take for you to get that plan B while you were still at your company?
it took me 2 weeks to have my plan B ready and that was lucky because I was a perfect fit for plan B company. I spent about 6 years at B company and left them early Nov 2011 because the ship was starting to take on water….got a great promotion where I am now so it is a good move.
The common denominator is always *you*. Politics may trump competence in some cases, but politicking nevertheless is a useful skill in large groups.
It’s a must. Might not be fun, but it becomes second nature after a while politicking.
[…] on Yakezie.com, I write about what to do if you get Passed Over For Promotion And Not Paid. Check it out if you are feeling a little […]
[…] on Yakezie.com, I write about what to do if you get Passed Over For Promotion And Not Paid. Check it out if you are feeling a little […]
Although, in my youth I’ve had my share of working snafus, I’ve never missed a promotion I wanted. In fact, I once got a job I didn’t want, and it turned out to be great. I am a huge believer in network, network, network.
You are very fortunate and must be very talented Barbara!
Does this mean you’ve been with your same company for many years then? If not, how come?
Given your work experience, are you in senior management or close to it?
Thanks for sharing.
I’ve gone through not getting promoted as well and it was disappointing. I eventually got promoted but not at the speed I wished. When I was passed over I talked things over with my manager and made it really clear that getting promoted was really important to me and presented the reasons why I felt I deserved it. I also asked for suggestions on what I could do better. I was happy when I got that promotion later but a bit bummed out that a bunch of other people did too but I decided not to let that get me down. I made some changes so I could have a better work/life balance and that has helped me a LOT! I like my job a lot better now and I’m also able to leave at a reasonable hour every day and fully utilize my free time.
Good stuff Sydney! Glad you guys talked it out and eventually got what you both wanted. After a certain income level, it’s all about work/life balance, with an emphasis on LIFE! :)
Fortunately, I am not in this situation although maybe I would like the opportunity to receive more pay and a promotion. In this economy, I think it is more complicated because many existing companies are piling more work on their employees and trying to maintain profit margins with less people and sales. I think recognition and support are as important as raises and promotion. The employee will always win because the good ones will leave and go to where they will be appreciated.
What is the pay and promotion track of a teacher Larry? Tx
Not applicable! After 10 years, you will earn in the low $70K. I earned more this year because I had an auxiliary (taught additional class). In the past, I taught summer school too. The normal career path is administration (Asst. Principal or Principal). I definitely do not want to manage teachers! The differential is not that much initially and I have very little time left until retirement. Besides, it is less satisfying.
$70,000 sounds pretty good after 10 years, especially once you factor in the pension for life! Whooo hoo!
Hey Sam, some companies have a policy against moonlighting! They don’t want you to do *anything* other than your job, believe it or not.
I hear you about both the starving kids and people killing it. I think that ultimately though you need to make the decisions that will be the best for *you* going forward. Worrying too much about how other people are doing better is like trying to keep up with the Joneses. Also, knowing just how good we have it because of how fortunate we are is a good motivator to push, and not be afraid of taking a leap. Whatever happens, we won’t starve or die on the streets. People sometimes are willing to put up with too much because they are so afraid of life without a regular paycheck to sustain their lifestyles.
I can feel from your comments the itch to break free and do something on your own Kevin! Good luck for 2012!
Wise words, Sam. It’s a jungle out there, and entitlement and/or illusions of fairness get people nowhere. I agree with your battle gear comment and like your assessment on HR whining. Our networks are important, while remembering that the person that truly has your back is you.
Great tips Sam! Let me add a little trick I learn’t. If you are going to confront your boss, do something unexpected completing your work ahead of schedule or taking on more responsibility and *then* talk to your boss. Generate goodwill and then talk. Be polite and seek genuine feedback and improve.
Good tip Moneycone. Ping the boss also after s/he has done something great, got their own promotion, or just after lunch and not before!
Good tips Sam. Sometimes its merely the relationship between you and your manager is the reason behind you being passed over. In that case I would recommend changing teams and departments, if that’s possible. Do keep posting for internal jobs. This also helps in gaining more functional knowledge. I am in my second department already since joining this employer 3 years ago.
Ugg…I’ve been there. I lucked out and my manager that was blocking me left, and I was immediately picked up and promoted by another manager. But the old saying is true – it is all about who you work for.
Great post. Love the message that you we are ultimately responsible for your own situation. But it is so much easier to blame the boss and company!
I remember just starting out after college and being passed over for a promotion. It felt pretty bad. I talked to a couple managers and asked what I needed to do to put myself in a place where I was promotable. One of the Managers became my mentor and placed me on a high visibility special project. I was noticed by the Business Unit Controller and got my promotion!
Great advice Sam. I think that this could be devastating emotionally, but sometimes it certainly doesn’t require moving. Like Barbara and others have mentioned, it could just be not properly utilizing your network. Office politics do matter, regardless of whether or not it is pleasant.
BTW, Mitch’s comment made me chuckle.
Getting passed over should great a fire in one’s belly to either get promoted, or do great things for someone else or oneself. Don’t just sit there and take it. Have an action plan!
Interesting post… with some great advice. Putting things in writing is especially helpful. I’ve found the lack of a paper trail can leave the discussion in the “general” nature rather than “specifics” that are needed to ensure success during another opportunity.
It really, really is putting all promises into writing. Without anything in writing, you’ve got JACK DIDDILY! Important lesson for everyone.
I was looked over quite a few times at my old job. It just gave me motivation to leave there and find a new, better job (which I did). :)
After the HR manager (the owner’s wife) informed me that I was getting a 10% pay cut over the phone behind the wheel of her Lexus SUV, I realized exactly how much I was respected by the owners of the company. Getting passed up for promotion was an easy thing, because we knew that it wasn’t a matter of who was qualified, it was a matter of who would take less compensation. My plan B was to quit my job and work for myself.
Yikes, why were you getting a pay cut? Was it performance or the economy? Better than getting fired perhaps?
My first job out of the college (the first time lol) I was up for a promotion into the co-manager position. Imagine my surprise when suddenly a new co-manager begins working! I found out that I was passed over for my lack of experience even though the manager had practically promised me that position. Once I realized that she only promised me to ‘dangle the promotion’ as motivation I decided to go back to school for a better degree. I have much more upward mobility now than co-manager or manager.
It’s a great trick manager’s have to dangle the Promotion carrot. It only works twice for two years AT MOST before employees quit.
Fool me twice, shame on you. Fool me thrice, shame on me! This is the key message here!
I recently (last Monday) finally got a long over due promotion. 4 years ago my boss told me the organization would create a senior level position in my field. So I waited, and waited and waited. Finally, after I took an interview in the business area (I am in IT) management finally put the senior level position out to competition, which I won.
I will never know if applying for and receiving an interview for a position outside of my group was what motivated the rush to create the competition, but I am sure it didn’t hurt …
Congtrats on the promo! How did you manage to survive for so long? Or, did you not get passed up first, and just had to wait 4 years?
I was in the middle of my pay scale.
I really enjoy my job – I am a business analyst so I deal with the Ministry learning all about what/how/why the business areas do to support Natural Resources in Ontario. So my pay was still going up and I learn new things all the time.
In a way I was sort of passed up – in that my counterparts, specifically in Toronto, were given opportunities to be “senior” a few years back but it wasn’t until this past fall that our location created a similar position.
Gotcha. How long do you think your can do your job for and what is the end game/promotion track for your role?
I was once passed over for a promotion. I was working in one department and another one was offered me a position at a higher level. I was so excited but then I got news that I am not getting it. After talking to the hiring manager I found out that my current boss had to do smth with it. So I did have a talk w/him. It appeared that he wanted to keep me in his department. How selfish was that??? I still get mad just remembering it! I was out of there in three months. Who would want to work for that jerk anyway.
That’s great you found an escape in just 3 months! At least he found you so awesome that he didn’t want to let you go right??
Actually he didn’t like me! At all! He did it on purpose! He admitted it later. Can you believe it???
Wow, that sucks. Can’t believe it!
[…] more of my writing, go to Yakezie.com and check out my thoughts on getting passed over and not paid, and what to […]
It remember it happening when I was up for my first. I know I was disappointed, but don’t quite remember how I “got over it”.
For later in one’s career (10+ years in), what’s everyone’s thoughts on getting a minimum term contract?
Agreed that employment is “at will” at most places, but a contract will ensure you have a secure job for a fixed time period at a fixed salary. The key is to negotiate a high enough base where you are “happy”, because you can always get screwed over your perks / promotions which are typically not guaranteed.
Don’t think there’s such thing as a guarantee unless you are joining another firm that desperately wants you. The longer you stay at your firm, the more they can take advantage of your loyalty b/c they think you’ll never move.
This reminds me of my former job I had at a private golf course. To make a long story short, my boss told me I wasn’t capable of my duties, and to make it worse he told me over the walkie-talkie we used to communicate with the upstairs staff. Anyway, this wasn’t the first time that my boss disrespected me, so I built up the fortitude to confront him. The bastard wouldn’t even look me in the eye, and thats when I decided to take off my company shirt and throw it in his face, and walked out. True story.
I loved that job because of free golf at a high quality private club and I obviously didn’t have another job lined up before this incident. I realize I should/could have handled the situation in a better manner, especially that I could’ve used a great recommendation from them. It bit me in the butt as I didn’t find a job for 6 + months! I definitely learned from my mistakes!
That’s disrespectful of your boss and I’m glad you quit! Lessons learned, as we move on and get better. Thanks for sharing your story.
It’s awful hard to turn your job performance around once the bitterness sets in. But you nailed it Sam: the responsibility lies on us, not the company, to improve our situation(s).
I think that even worse than this is when the job role you are in gets a new bump in minimum salary. I worked my butt of to get the middle of my pay band, then they raise the minimum to just about what I was currently making and threw me a couple grand. So I was 3+ years experience making about 105% of new people just starting with the company. Holy hell, that was 3+ years ago and I’m still bitter.
I can empathize! I remember my first year working for peanuts and the next year of recruits made 35% more than my class! They did rectify the situation sorta later, but yikes.
Are you still at your same company?
great post sam – everyone is responsible for their own actions, and if they know they didnt work hard, there should be no hard feelings, and best of all a clear path to what they want for the next go-around
My husband took a new, lower paying job 5 years ago. In 5 years, he hasn’t gotten a single review or raise. I pushed him to ask his boss who said he was doing a good job, but they didn’t give reviews and they didn’t have the funds for raises. What kind of company never gives reviews?
This company’s only client is Ford which has been tightening its belt. OTOH, they just handed out $6K bonuses to all the union workers so perhaps the money just isn’t trickling down.
I’d love for him to move on but he loves this job so we’ll just have to keep stretching to do more with less. I work 2 part time jobs and go to school. Not sure how much more we can stretch.
Hi Meryl, I would say if your husband truly loves his job, then he is fortunate and no raise should be no big deal.
The past 5 years has been brutal for the auto industry, and if his one and only client is Ford…. perhaps everyone should be thankful the Auto industry didn’t go under?
Now if he was promised a raise and a promo, that is a different story.
Keep on trucking!
Resentment is so tough to beat once it sets in. Keeping it in writing really is one of the best things you can do. Even just a daily log of happenings will help you keep everything stratight. I actually had to coach someone as they were exiting a job and the journaling helped in the severence negotiations big time.
Nice work and welcome back Nunzio! Hope the professoring is going well.
I confronted my boss (she was new and had not been at the company for more than six months). I outline all of the things I did that were above and beyond my job description that I did before she arrived. When I finished my store, she asked me why I did not tell her that before review….I thought about it later. She did have a point…
Yeah, bosses can’t know everything. They would like to be guided as well. Manage up!
Great reminder Sam. If we have a problem it is up to us to deal with it. There will be a “bad” manager in every job. You have to manage around them. Since I work for myself except for some consulting work, I only have me to blame for my failures…
How do you recommend making records of promises? Write an email paraphrasing the conversation and send it to the boss? Your journal entries probably wouldn’t carry much weight with the muckity mucks…Especially if you described your work situation on one page and your date with a creep on the next page…
I would simply make not of all record promises in a journal with entry and as verbatim of words as possible when it comes to promotion and compensation. When things come to a head, you’ve got your notes to provide clarity. They can either lie that they didn’t say it or recognize.
Great advice. Keeping your resume up to date and being on the radar for new opportunities is excellent advice, even if you’re not slighted at promo time. Most experts advise doing precisely that to keep your career moving forward and protect yourself in the event of unforeseen problems with your company or job.
Be careful about the moonlighting, as it can lead to performance declines at your day job, which ironically will keep you out of the promotion limelight once again. Also, if your begin blogging or otherwise writing as a form of release, check your employment agreement to ensure that it doesn’t give your comapany rights to any content you create while under their employ. Yes, this can mean even content you create on your won time, so be aware.
I’ve never been passed over for a promotion…but I did get laid off twice!
Hmm, donno which one is better!
This actually just happened to me, but it was a promotion I didn’t really want. It would have been a lot more money, and a lot more responsibility. It actually made me feel better about it to write publicly about it (anonymously of course!).
This is a helpful guide for what to do after the fallout.
Keeping a long term perspective can really help. It can be so de-motiving to keep getting passed over for promotions. Though, if one can continually increase they skills and work on their networking abilities then eventually that better job can be found.
[…] to stay employed, but not enough to feel frustrated if he doesn’t land that big client or fails to get recognized for good work. This is the safest route which will allow him to continue to bank $100,000+ bonus checks, earn […]
[…] Not getting paid or promoted is a very discouraging fact of work life. Not all of us can be special. Not all of us can keep climbing the mountain of glory. It’s disappointing to be average, as I strongly believe that most of us have an inherent desire to be the best at what we do. A normal bell curve will say that 60-70% of us are in the middle of the pact. Therefore, most of us are probably average, or will encounter mediocrity at some point in our work careers. […]
I think being proactive is very important though. Checking in with your boss once a quarter even (as long as that wouldn’t be considered ridiculous for your field/department). If you keep that open dialogue and subtly remind your boss that you would like to know what you can continually improve to be considered for the upcoming promotion will generally work in your favor. It keeps it in your bosses mind what your goal is, and you’re less likely to be blindsided in your annual review.
This rings very true. Last year at this time we posted for an Cost Accounting Manager, My credentials were more than needed for the job. Passed over for someone that had applied for the job I am currently in now. He didnt get the job I am in now but they thought he was good enough for a supervisory position…weird. Anyways the boss told me he had other plans for me and to come back around review time that I would get a higher raise. Nope nothing. Which is why I do not feel bad browsing these forums and blogging work now… :-)
That sucks, but I’m glad you’re feeling better.
I think you’ll like this post then: http://www.financialsamurai.com/2012/02/10/the-upside-of-being-average/#comments
Thanks Ill be sure to check it out. I feel great now. I go to work check the news…do a little work…blog..then do a little finance…then time to go home…its great to be an excel guru..
[…] the people.* Relieve frustration and put things into perspective. You may have recently been passed up for a promotion and didn’t get a raise and are fuming. Meanwhile, the jacka** who worked half as much as […]
What if you are cursed no matter what you in every job, school and volunteer organization? Don’t care about promotions or raise but the experience to take with me to another job. I hope job hopping will be more accepted in the future because yes company loyalty is overrated. Even I feel staying in an organization for more than 3 years is too long, though I was surprised to hear than there are people who leave after 2 weeks (no being fired or laid off but just leave), even after the company wanted them to stay to give them promotions over those who worked there forever.
I was passed over many times in my employment – and I work in a Civil Service job, where your experience in one step is supposed to lead you to promotion in the next. First was going from temp to full time, where they basically hired someone off of the street over me. I had to wait 14 years before I was made “technically” full time – I worked all those years full time hours but I was actually permanent part time, with a whole lot of seniority by that time.
Next was becoming supervisor. The facility grew to hate our department so much that they demanded to push up the supervisor’s requirements so they wouldn’t have to promote any of us. The they hired a bozo who lied about his education, barely qualified for the position (if at all), and eventually was fired for mishandling company funds. He was allowed to torture us for 9 years before he left, though – and hired all of his buddies, including a girlfriend who he made up a position for, and even after he left thought she was “in charge”. He was clearly unqualified and as unprofessional as they come – but our company thought he was just great because he was causing us problems, which made them happy.
The last thing is that my facility “went private” and so all of us Civil Service workers, except for enough to count on one hand were layed off. I kept my position, but at another facility. Even though I am the most senior, and only 1 of 3 in my job classification, my employer STILL will not let me promote to supervision. They say they cannot afford to promote me and have enough money to keep the other two working – yet they pay other people who are outside of my class, and have no experience whatsoever in my line of work to “supervise” us and pay them acting pay – which is 6% of their pay (they get paid 300% of what we get, so that’s 18% of my pay). at up to 3 different people per day. We have this round robin of unqualified people getting paid to supervise us, while we have to live with that and the reality that it’s not a glass ceiling – but rather the ceiling has been totally removed.
Bruce, that suuuucks. Any way you can get out and do something else?
I have been with my current company for 12 years and was passed up for 4 promotions. I have been working for the past 2 years helping out a supervisor in another department. In the meantime, they hired someone to work with me. That supervisor recruited my coworker for the extra work as well. Guess who got promoted??? The coworker who has only been with the company for 2 years. I am at the point now where I just come in and do what is asked of me and nothing else. That is not my nature. I feel there is nothing else I can do to convince the “powers that be” that I am worth promoting.
Stacey, that is horrible to hear. I’d be looking for a new job behind the scenes for sure!
Perhaps you will find my new book out in July a perfect read then. Stay tune!
[…] Would you be more relieved to keep your job or resent that you took a pay cut?Recommended Reading:Passed Over For Promotion And No Raise Most Popular PostsWhy You Can’t Freelance Or Blog Full-TimeI quit my job recently.It was […]
I have worked for the same company for 13 years. 2 years ago I was demoted and given a cut in pay , this was the result of a personal conflict with the Dept head.I was the second person in charge before this happened.
Since this demotion I have worked diligently and sacrificed hoping to regain my former position.Today we had a meeting and the department head announced that there would be a total restructure of personnel. An employes who was hired 4 months ago was promoted to my old position.That was 10 hours ago and I am still so mad I cannot see straight.
Ive been with the same company for 12 years and not to sound cocky have a pretty stellar resume. Recently started over in a new city – Apparently what you know is not as important as who you know in Los Angeles, as Ive been banished to career limbo with a crap shift where I see no one and no matter what i do, volunteering for extra work, volunteering to work on my own time to complete a project, Ive been passed up 3 times now by more recent and less experienced hires. Im super loyal to this company, am a workaholic, and this is honestly the only thing ive ever been really good at. I just want to work, not babysit shifts an intern could do. Its been 9 months and its getting hard to stay positive as i contemplate throwing away all this experience and looking into a new field. Scary. Thanks for this article, im just venting and commiserating.
Kari, what you know is DEFINITELY not as important as who you know!
You might enjoy this book if you get a chance, “How To Engineer Your Layoff: Make A Small Fortune By Saying Goodbye“. I just wrote it after announcing my own retirement after 13 years!
[…] have it any other way. If you are complaining at your job why you aren’t getting promoted and not getting the raise you deserve, try your hand at entrepreneurship and do a little suffering. It’ll be good for you!When I […]
I have bust my behinde for a company for 5 years. I am constatntly told by “higer-ups” what a wonderful job I do and how everyone loves to work with me. My big problem is that my direct boss is also my Aunt! She told me the first of this year that she was going to be really hard on me and push me harder than anyone else and that I needed to treat my job like a lifestyle not just a job and that eventually I would take over for her. I was very proud of myself and did everything that was asked of me and then some, including not taking ANY time off while all my co-workers took long weekends, etc. Then all of a sudden she announced that the previous day she gave her position to the girl they hired 3 months ago. I litterally threw up when I got home that night. Everyone has told me to keep my head down and just do my work as I have no college education to back up my office experience to try and find another job in my field (and no that is not what got me passed up for the promotion) I used to love my job with a passion but now it is nothing but a paycheck. I have stopped coming in early and staying late. My only sanity will be when the “promotee” goes on her maternity leave in a few months. I have also started taking some courses to help “back-up” my experience.
Good luck! And tell your Aunt to love you more!
I have been working a government job for over 10 years. I have not been promoted and no raises, but is constantly told that we are fortunate that you are here. I have applied for jobs, and even work out of class for two years and all were successful with great reviews. They are continuing to bring in people who don’t know what they are doing and I end up training them. I have nothing else left.
Authority is king! The spell casters that provide the ultimate fast results are the ones that know what they are doing! But, what if you don’t know what you are doing? It can be hard to find the exact spell caster you need, when you don’t know what to look for in a professional spell caster. The best spell casters are not easy to pick out!
I have a proven track record, having honed my skills from experiences and tradition passed down through the centuries from my forefathers. I deal with occult, mystism and the paranormal. We do email, phone and private readings and consultations to enable you take control of the situation and control your destiny.
I have 20 years experience in helping and guiding many people from all over the world. My psychic abilities can help you answer and resolve many unanswered questions. I specialize in helping women and men from all walks of life with these matters. I work mainly with active spells – spells directed out, to bring about a desired event or to affect someone else.
But I have much more to offer you! I am a Psychic Spiritualist Healer. Interested in Healing, Spiritual Cleansing, Spiritual Advice, Spiritual Guidance, advice etc email me your questions, problems and i will guide you further:prophetjumamaspirituality@gmail.com.
I relate to this article because my husband has worked for a now university, was just a college for 3 yrs. Helped many many students. He was told that if he went on a Masters degree he would be considered for a teaching position. So he does, a fellow worker in our dept did too. He has not been in our dept doing what we do for even a yr. No sooner is that guy in the masters but he is offered and given a teaching job. Not my husband. If that was not bad enough and its only been like 2 months later, he is now a associate dean as well! Here we toil at 10 buck and hour in our job, been in the company far longer, helped far more people, done all we are asked- and this guy whom without my spouse would Not be even the level as we are, he helped him get the job. But all this promotion? We cannot even get full time! Sorry mate this Isnt us in this case but sheer utter schmoozing!
I guess being passed for promotion is a universal truth.There are loads and loads of research in performance appraisal but in the end it all boils down to destiny and whether you are at the right place at the right time .I was a top performer for 3 years.Number 1 rating which is awarded only to the best 5% even less than that.I was told repeatedly that I am the best but when it came to hikes or promotion I got nothing.Infact over the period of 3 years I got these answers (go ahead have a good laugh ):
My PAL says : Why do you need a hike your husband is at a good position.
Was he promoting me for my performance or for something else.
My HR Partner says : If you knew you were in the promotion list
why did you get pregnant.Why did you go on Maternity Leave.
If it takes 7-8 months for a promotion list to get to the HR processing should I go and get my child aborted.A woman talking to another woman like this how worse can it get.And I was being promoted for my past performance not whether i am available for the next few months.
My People Manager says : With 2 kids it is difficult to manage a job why don;t you think twice before rejoining after your maternity leave.
And all this happens over a period of 3 years.Every time they have a reason.And then when all good employees left and they lost whatever accounts they had they got a blanket promotion for all the leftovers.What a joke that at one of the biggest technology brands in the world.It is a 100 year old company… a 3 letter word brand which led me to great depression in my life.