When it comes to finances I’ve heard all of the excuses in the book.
I don’t have time. I don’t have enough money. When I make more money then I’ll…
I don’t know how…
When starting a new year we like to make resolutions and set goals. Whether it’s about your finances, or lifestyle, I think it’s good to start planning for the future. But none of that thinking and planning matters if you can’t get out of your own way.
I know you don’t want to hear this, but if you listen to your excuses and let them keep you from moving toward your goals, I can guarantee that 2012 won’t be like you hope.
WHAT 50+ MILLIONAIRES TOLD ME
In 2011 I interviewed over 50 millionaires and I found one common thing from them all. They have a “No Excuses” approach.
I’m not saying they don’t have excuses. They do, and so do I. But they don’t let their excuses get in the way. I’ve learned a few tips and tricks to get past excuses, and I wanted to share them as we start out 2012.
Definition from Google:
Excuse: nounA reason or explanation put forward to defend or justify a fault or offense.
Recognize Them
Be honest with yourself, because if you don’t know it’s an excuse you will think it’s true!
Be aware. It can be really easy to hear excuses from other people but hard to notice them when they come out of your mouth.
Action Item:
Ask a friend you trust to call you out. Or have a mentor or fellow business owner call you out. This part might be painful to hear, but it will be one of the fastest ways to get you to notice them. (I know from experience!)
Commit to Something Way in Advance
Let’s say you want to grow your business, and know that public speaking or even cold calling would help. Most people (and many clients of mine!) come up with a million excuses not to head down that route. Instead, don’t let the excuses stop you, but make the commitment far enough away that you don’t need to sweat about it right now.
This technique helps your brain (which is full of excuses) know that it’s not in any immediate danger, and still allows you to do the things you want to do. Yet the event will be booked and much harder for you to get out of later!
So book a speaking gig in 4 months. It’s not scary because it’s so far away. Or create the list to cold call, but don’t do it until next week. (When next week comes, just set a time limit of only 10 minutes at first to make as many calls as you can!)
Action Item:
Mark a date to do that item in your life or business that you are scared about.
Get to the Root of It
A lot of excuses come down to fear: fear of failure, fear of admitting you were wrong, etc.
So what is the fear? Frank McKinney, a real estate developer (creating 30 million dollar dream homes), said:
“Realize there is a force at work subconsciously in your mind that is tempting you to say no. That’s the primary difference between my career and most others especially in real estate, is that I don’t let the fear that is there stop me. I do not let it stop me. That is the primary difference. “
I’ve used a tactic called the worst case scenario. You write down the worst things that could go wrong. Then you figure how probable that might be (usually < 1% and only if 17 other things go wrong first!) and work out solutions to those problems. It helps to ease your mind in knowing you can figure it out even if the worst happens.
Action Item:
Accept your fear and do it anyway. Try writing down your worst case scenario and what you would do to prevent or fix it.
Logically Counteract It
Pretend you are in a debate and you need to prove this excuse false. GO.
Action Item:
Role play with a friend, or just write the logical defense in a .doc or journal.
You want 2012 to be the best year yet. So let’s start acting like it now. You can only control your thoughts and behaviors (even though many times we wish we could control others!). Work on eliminating excuses from your vocabulary this year.
You may be surprised to see what happens!
Photo: San Francisco’s Transamerica Building In The Morning, SD.
Great post Jaime. I don’t let excuses get in my way either, and I think that’s the reason for my “success”. I haven’t quite reached my desired milestone, but I’m getting there. Our of my way excuses!! ;)
“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” A lot of time we’re afraid of success or what it takes to get there, but if we get past that, success is much more attainable.
I like your suggestions on how to control your fears, and writing down the worst case scenario. Good job!
Very well written. I am going to pass this on to a few people that will definitely benefit from this article.
very good post. loved the lesson and totally agree. reminded me a lot of the alchemist…
I stopped making excuses after I saw what happened with 9/11. Just month ago, I was at the top of the Windows of The World Restaurant. Then I went to India a year after that, and really decided to cherish what I have and make the most of it.
Perspective changes us!
Excellent reminder of our flaws, well at least my flaws. I’m not an expert at anything, I could be labeled as an expert excuse giver. Not a good title to have.
I like the idea of booking something in advance and taking away all natural excuses not to do it. I’m a fan of finding ways to “trick” our subconscious into doing what is right. I also try to find ways I don’t have to do things I don’t want to do – meaning no procrastination or excuses.
I think the no-excuses approach fits right in with people that are goal oriented, take action on those goals, and are persistent in doing so. That persistency and focus to get something accomplished can help alleviate excuses from creeping in. If you really want something to happen, in many cases you’ll make it happen without thinking of excuses as an option. Good post.
I also know too many that make excuses to justify why they haven’t achieved what they set out to achieve. I think that they try to point the finger at everything and everyone else but themselves.
I have a hard time being around such underachievers because they will either bring me down or make it appear as though I’m doing too much and need to slow down. The proof in my method of no excuses as opposed to their method of excuses galore is that my checklist is getting checked off and theirs is sitting there collecting dust.
I’m just curious when you did your research and whether or not you’ve followed up with any of your millionaires. I’d be interested to see how that real estate developer fared after the real estate crash.
I’m a real estate investor and I can tell you that even in a bad market, there are people still making money. I own a few apartment buildings and I do a lot of research, planning, and crunching the numbers before I buy.
I also happen to know people that lost money in real estate because they got in over their heads to begin with and didn’t pay attention to any red flags. I think the point to be taken is that in anything you do you will take risks, you have to just try to minimize it as much as possible.
I love the worst case scenario idea as a way to eliminate negative self-talk. When you examine the worst possible result and realize it isn’t that bad, you almost bypass the belief in failure because it isn’t really that awful. Great article!
I’ve made excuses for a long time. It feels better to just focus on what I can do. What about planning something right around the corner so you HAVE to prepare for it? I personally work better when there is a sense of urgency.
I love all these tips…especially the last one. I’m a sucker for logic, and this may just be the motivational tool I need to kick myself in the butt.
Great points jamie – people can either choose to fail at their goals and make excuses without putting forth much effort, or try for their goals, have partial success and double down! It would be a shame to waste time.
I learned very early that excuses are just excuses for poor performance. I keep trying no matter what and I usually achieve my goal. In some cases it takes longer than I originally thought. “getting to the root of it” is another way of reflecting on it. You made some good points.
Its weird how booking something in advance makes you find ways to make it happen. We throw a charity fundraiser/party every year and pick the date and work backwards. Its amazing how many excuses evaporate when you’re on a time crunch.
I am totally guilty of letting excuses run my life. They have held me back ever since I could remember. I even had an excuse for joining the Yakezie challenge until this year. You make some excellent points Jaime!
It is so true – to steal from Nike, Just Do It and don’t make excuses!
Jaime, This advice is easy when you’re feeling on top, when you are struggling, that’s when you must dig in and keep at it!!! I have been working to get a Personal Finance Book for Gen Yers published for 3 years. TODAY, I got a positive response from a publisher!! I can’t tell you how many times I thought about giving up (but I never did)!!! Hey, all of you readers out there, please visit my site, the publisher is interested in my web traffic before moving forward!! (barbara friedberg personal finance dot com)
Hi Barb,
I will visit your site as soon as I hit the “post your comment” button :) Congratulations and kudos for not giving up! Hard work usually always pays off! Maybe you’ve read The Secret and that helped, but in any case more power to you and good luck!!!
Great idea to put your goals on the calendar, a little more difficult to procrastinate when you see it on the calendar.
My favorite quote from Mark Twain says it ALL-
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain
Great post! It’s amazing how many people have goals and dreams but yet don’t have a plan how to get there. People are at point A and want to get to point B and they think it happens overnight… the secret to success is hardwork and planning :)
I really enjoyed reading this article and will try some of the advice points – particularly keen on using logic to contradict my excuses. Interesting, how the universe conspires, sometime. Just yesterday I read a book called Who Moved My Cheese – the message partially overlaps.
Jaime, thanks for these specific suggestions. Resistance and excuses can waylay so many great plans and opportunities, and I especially like your advice to take a few nonthreatening “baby steps” towards a goal. Great article!
Very inspiring post. I have always tried to overcome obstacles. I don’t take not being able to do something very well. To me you have to keep trying to find a way.
Sometimes it’s best to stop worrying and dive in head first. You can learn from every experience, including the bad ones!
I’d rather look back and say, “Wow, I messed that one up, oh well.” instead of “Man, I wish I didn’t back out of that”.
Sadly, people make mistakes all the time and they make excuses. What sets the best above the rest is that they don’t give up and buy into the negative hype that is on the internet. Man, if I took a lot of advice from all the negative Nancies on the web, I don’t think I’d be where I am today! Simple advice and people would find that if they follow it, great things can happen.
Great advice, particularly liking the ‘Action Item’s, going to have to try some of them next time I try to come up with an excuse.
Whilst I’m sure it’s an article for another time I was wondering how you would advise someone to counteract someone that makes excuses for you. For example, a loving parent may tell you to look at the potential downsides if you fail and not to get your hopes up. Clearly we should learn to believe in ourselves but negative feedback such as this can result in a person believing that their excuses are legitimate.
@Tyler, I am a proponent of diving in without overthinking. “Figure out the details later” makes getting started so much easier.
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