If mom’s not happy, no one’s happy. You may have heard that saying before, and it definitely applies to our family. I am Melissa, the mom behind Mom’s Plans. I started blogging at the end of March, 2009.
I have always loved writing; when I was in high school a teacher submitted one of my short stories to a creative writing festival at the local four year university, and I was chosen to be one of the workshop participants. Because I loved to read and write I decided to major in English.
While most people could appreciate that I liked to write, no one saw that as a viable career. I can’t count how many times I heard, “Writing is nice, but what do you want to DO?” After college I could only find work as a secretary at a janitorial supply company. After two years working there, I abandoned my writing dreams and decided to become an English teacher.
I went to grad school and became a teacher. At first I loved it, but eventually teaching began to wear on me. I taught at a community college and had 28 students per class; I had 5 classes per semester, and each student had to produce a minimum of 5 two to four page essays. Yes, that is 700 essays I had to grade over a 16 week period. Or, 1,400 to 2,800 pages of reading. When my husband and I were childless, I could manage. I graded for hours at home, and my husband worked hard too as he pursued a combined M.A./Ph.D. However, after our first child was born, my husband’s education had to take a back seat to my teaching career because we couldn’t afford the steep cost of day care in our urban area. I became increasingly unhappy with the heavy workload, and my husband was frustrated that he could not focus on his education. Once I had our second child four years later, we knew our situation had to change.
About Mom’s Plans
Mom’s Plans was created while I was on an extended leave of absence from my job after our second child’s birth. It is named Mom’s Plans because it was in part about my plan to quit my job. The subtitle of Mom’s Plans is “Learning to Live a Fulfilling Life on Less.” While I do write about some family issues and some “mom” issues, I mainly write about how I am learning to save money and curb our expenses. I am the one in the family who creates and executes the budget; luckily my husband goes along with almost any way I try to save money.
Unfortunately, I was not able to quit my job after having my second child. (My husband has been pursuing his degree since 2001, and he was not able to finish his degree before my leave of absence ended.) I reluctantly returned to work, and my blog took a back seat to the endless essay grading. I was unhappy as was my husband; he couldn’t finish his degree as quickly as he would like because he watched our daughter all day while I was at work. (Our son was in preschool.)
I actually returned from my leave of absence newly pregnant with our third child. I taught for 8 months and then had my third child. My employer once again granted me an extended leave of absence. I am currently on that leave of absence now and am slated to return to work in June, 2011.
My husband and I have saved an emergency fund, and we are continually working to curb our expenses by bartering for services and reducing our consumption in general. I have thrown myself into my writing and am trying to make enough money from my blog and writing assignments to finally quit my job. I don’t want to be one of those crusty, burned out teachers who scowl at their students and count the days to retirement. Instead, I am enjoying pursuing my first love, writing.
Besides giving me an opportunity to express myself through writing, blogging at Mom’s Plans has given me the opportunity to make virtual friends. I love sharing the deals I find and the ways I am saving money. I also share how our family is trying to eat healthier, which can be a great way to save both in the short and long term. Each month I have several people follow my once a month cooking adventures via Mom’s Plans’ Facebook page. What I find most encouraging is when other moms leave comments that they too are trying to rework their finances so they can be home with their kids. While a few years ago I may have worked hard so we could afford “things”, I am now working hard to get rid of clutter and save so I can have the most precious thing—time with my family.
Our family life is much happier now, which benefits not only my relationship with my husband but also with my children. I plan to quit by June, 2011, and then the next plan for our family will be paying off the dreaded student loan debt and saving for a house.
How I Found Yakezie
This fall I wrote a series of posts about having a debt free Christmas. Penny from The Saved Quarter happened to stop by and leave a comment about my post and her plan to spend less than $100 on Christmas. Intrigued, I visited her blog. I loved it and spent several hours reading through her archives. I also found the Yakezie button on her side bar.
I installed the Alexa toolbar in mid-October, and my Alexa rank was in the 900,000s. (By that time I had been blogging for 1.5 years.) It took me about two weeks to figure out how to start the Yakezie Challenge. By the time I officially joined the Yakezie Challenge on November 2nd my Alexa rank was 691,928. Now, nearly 4 months later, it is down to 122,993. I never would have guessed that it would drop so quickly!
I am so happy to finally become an official member of Yakezie. Through the Yakezie forums I have met some wonderful bloggers. The support and guidance that fellow members have offered is just incredible. I have had the opportunity to guest post for a few members, I have found a staff writing position with another member, and fellow bloggers were so generous to offer up their guest posts when my baby was sick for a week and I fell behind on my blogging.
I look forward to becoming a full-fledged member and continuing to promote other members and to help newer members. Thanks Sam, for creating such a dynamic group, and thanks to all the bloggers who help make this such a supportive network.
Congrats on being a member! It sounds like you have had quite the life so far. I’m glad that you can put your excellent writing skills to good use on your website. I’ll definitely make sure to visit more often.
Thanks. I am hoping my life will be a bit quieter as I continue to work from home. I like your blog header redesign, by the way.
Thanks for sharing your story with us! I love to read about people who are blogging because their passion is writing. You can definitely see the passion in your writing!
I hope you can make your income goals happen this summer!
Thanks, Tim. I know it will happen slowly, and I am more than willing to put in the work.
Wow, great story Melissa! i hope to have a story similar to yours at the end of the challenge. It’s such a blessing to have found such a great group of bloggers with the mission of promoting one another. I’m sure you’ll hit your income goals without a hitch, get to it!
It is wonderful to have found this group. Glad you joined, and I look forward to reading your member post soon.
Congratulations Melissa and welcome as well. Good to read about your story – looks like the break was much needed, evidently as it resulted in your blog! You do have very good writing skills.
Yes, Sunil, I needed a break. I didn’t want to be a bad teacher :). I am always checking out your blog for new tips.
most certainly – would love to hear more about what you would like to hear about
Welcome! I have no doubt you’ll make your income goals by this summer, you have the most important piece of the puzzle – DRIVE!
I’m rooting for you! Wow , three kids and still finding time to blog is incredible to me. I know you will reach your goal of generating full-time income form your blog. Good luck!
Blogging is done during nap time and when the kids are in bed. I find it a rather relaxing hobby :)
Good luck with your plan to quit your job in June 2011! It’s going to be difficult with 3 kids, but you have to keep working at it. Thanks for sharing your story.
You have much to offer the group. Glad to have you!
Welcome to the Yakezie! It’s nice to get to know your back story a bit. I enjoy that your true passion is writing, because I am right there with you. Good luck in raising your blog’s income to be able to quit your 9-5, save for a house and pay off student loans–becoming a member of the Yakezie will definitely help you on your way.
Thanks, Amanda. I can tell you love to write; I love reading your posts, especially the ones about the Depression. Are there any more posts in that series?
Congrats on becoming a member now, Melissa! I enjoyed reading your story. Coming from a family with several educators, including one who taught for a long time at a community college, I can relate to that experience you mentioned.. Looking forward to being Yakezie teammates!
Great job! I am always impressed by moms who do it all. I think you have great goals too. Nice to meet ya
Hi Mom! I loved your story. You have a full plate and a delightful site to boot. Welcome and looking forward to getting better acquainted!
I feel like we are old friends after the last blog swap! Great to read more about your story. It was fun working together.
You sure have a busy life! I hope that you are able to gain enough income through the blog and other projects so you can retire from teaching!
I’m really impressed with how you’ve been able to continue teaching, grading so many papers and have 3 kids! I teach right now and always comment on how if I had kids at home, I don’t think I’d be able to continue teaching (of course I work with small children, so thankfully I don’t have 1,400 word essays to grade!) You’re doing an excellent job with your writing and your blog. Good luck on your goals!
Congratulations on joining the Yakezie! You juggle a lot of activities in your day.
Enjoyed your member post. I had a friend who was a teacher and the workload was unreal. Teach all day, grade all night, prep all weekend. Has to be one of the most underappreciated jobs out there. Love your passion for writing. Good luck in obtaining your dream!
Welcome Melissa. Great story. Glad to hear you have a passion and are using it. Good luck with everything.
Congrats Melissa! I’m glad you found your passion! You have a delightful blog and probably the most cheerful and colorful header I’ve seen in blogs!
Welcome Melissa. It is amazing that you blog with three small ones. Not many mom’s in the Yakezie with little ones! Thanks for bringing your unique perspective and writing skills to us.
Wow Melissa you sound crazy busy and your husband is the perpetual student! :) I’ve been to your blog a few times but just added you to my RSS so you’ll be seeing a lot more of me. Good luck with all three kids (!) and your husband’s pursuits as well.
I recall a different saying which goes like this “happy wife, happy life”. It is really important to do the things that make you happy. Happy life becomes a busy life!
Welcome, to the group, officially! Glad to have you as a member of the Yakezie, I know your contribution has been felt by all this far, and we all look forward to working with you even more.
Hi Melissa, Thanks for sharing your amazing story. You can definitely achieve you goals of becoming a SAHM/WAHM with the careful plans you’ve laid out to reduce your expenses and curb spending. Good luck and thanks for sharing your story.
I can completely relate to the part of your life where your husband’s education had to take a back seat when your first child was born. My husband and I were in the same situation when my son was born. I thought his Ph.d would be done within 6 months after our son was born…it was 18 months later. It was an equally difficult situation for us. I started a new career in accounting when my son was 4 months old. I still had one class remaining on my MBA. I also started work in January — tax season! It was a really difficult time and glad that those years are over.
Congrats and welcome to Yakezie, Melissa! It’s nice to know a bit about you. BTW, congratulations on your third child! You may be in a tough time now, but it will surely pass. :)