Greetings, fellow Yakezies! My name is Andrea and I’m here from So Over Debt. I’m simultaneously excited and terrified to share my Member Post with all of you.
My Blogging Beginnings
When I entered the world of personal finance blogging, I felt I had a worthwhile message. I was a former teenage mother, now a divorced single mother, who was finally making some sense out of money. My son was getting closer to adulthood (he turned 13 on Sunday) and I realized I was in no position to help him with anything if I didn’t make some changes in my life. After years of overspending, dodging collection calls, and begging the bank to reverse overdraft charges, I decided it was time I showed my son that life doesn’t have to be a constant struggle to make ends meet. I also wanted to help others find their own motivations to make better choices.
As I settled into the PF community, it was easy to compare myself to everyone else (and come up short). So many people made better financial decisions than me. Some were younger and already on the road to early retirement. Some never even had credit card debt! It was a little depressing. I began to think no one would read what I wrote, but I continued posting – if nothing else, it was helping me keep track of my resolve to stop spending.
Almost Didn’t Continue
One day in particular, I remember holding my finger over my mouse, ready to click “Delete Blog” and forget about this crazy idea to influence other people. I had received a scathing email in response to my post about how things changed in my life. Basically, the person stumbled across my blog, read the few things I’d posted, and decided to berate me for “making it sound too easy.” And the fact that I got pregnant at 15? “You’re just an irresponsible person all around; you have no business telling anyone what to do with their money.” It was upsetting. It made me angry. And it made me want to pull my story off the internet before anyone else told me what they thought about it.
Randomly, I thought of the quote my parents used for my senior ad in the high school yearbook:
Our lives are not determined by what happens to us, but how we react to what happens; not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes. It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary results.
I realized that I would never convince everyone to agree with what I had to say. Some people will always consider me an idiot when it comes to personal finance. And I just have to be okay with that. The fact is, I am an idiot when it comes to personal finance. That’s what got me into this mess! But my willingness to admit my shortcomings and work through them in a semi-public arena is what makes my blog unique in a world where “experts” often run the show.
If You Blog It, They Will Come
I’m glad I didn’t give up on my blog that day. A few weeks after I received that hateful email, I discovered the Yakezie Network and felt bold enough to enter the Challenge. For me, it was about more than achieving a certain Alexa ranking and driving traffic to my site. I wanted to find out if it was possible for a total financial failure to be accepted by a group of people who had knowledge and authority in the PF arena. Imagine my surprise when I was welcomed to the group with no questions asked! I can’t thank all of you enough for your support and encouragement as I’ve worked to find my voice – there were many times when a forum post or email from another Yakezie member or challenger inspired me to keep my finger off that “Delete Blog” button. In return, I’ve been able to encourage others who might be struggling with their blogging identity in their own way.
Since I began the Challenge in March, I have continued posting from my point of reference instead of trying to be something I’m not. And while there are still those who don’t understand what business I have blogging about money, I have developed confidence in my ability to provide a different point of view. I still don’t have all the answers, but that’s not what So Over Debt is about. By keeping a positive attitude, I have overcome (most of) my fears about telling my story and have stopped worrying so much about what people may think. Traffic has increased, and I have a small group of regular readers who keep me motivated even when it all seems like too much to handle.
If you are a current Yakezie challenger (or thinking about joining), please don’t let anyone tell you what the focus of your blog should be. As so many here told me when I started, concentrate on providing solid content that tells the world who you are and how your blog can benefit them. If you are enthusiastic, it will come through in your writing and help your site grow into something you can be proud of. And I can assure you, the Yakezie community will do what we can to help you along the way.
Andrea it’s always so good to read about your triumphs! Don’t ever delete! So many people have the ability to tear others down but with your encouragement and while you tell your story, you have the ability to build other up. Keep up the good work!
Andrea, your story is very encouraging and I’m sure others can relate to it. I’m glad you stuck around and didn’t listen to that one negative comment :)
I love that you are providing a responsible example for your son! Congrats on the membership, and I sincerely look forward to working with you.
Great story! Glad to have you in the network, and I hope that you’re teaching your son all the lessons you’ve learned so far about finances!
Congratulations Andrea! Very inspiring indeed, i’ve been/am at that cusp of going forward or not, but what’s the worst that can happen :)
Welcome Andrea! Thanks for sharing your story!
Great post. It is very inspiring, I am so glad you continued.
Hey Andrea, great to hear your story. I really enjoy your writing style and the introspection in your posts. BTW, you owe me a dollar in 2013 ;)
By even posting about financial problems you were already on the path to financial responsibility! I certainly wouldn’t be inspired by advice about how to get out of debt if I only heard it from people who’d never been *in* debt! Thank you for not hitting the delete button!
Keep up the good work! I almost gave up my blog at one time too. Got frustrated and actually gave up for a couple months until I came across the yakezie and discovered newfound motivation. Just like you said, if we blog it, they will come.
Welcome in!
The best thing about the creation of the blog is that it can be about anything and everything that you want it to be. Not everyone will want to listen, and there will always be people who disagree (and even may not like you).
I really like your parent’s quote in your yearbook. One of the important things I have learned it takes a lot of voices to get through to different people. Your accomplishments or overcoming adversity will help someone or inspire them. Thanks for sharing.
Loved your member post and way to be an example to your son. I was moved by your getting past that hateful reader. Very inspiring as I struggle with my voice at times, too. Way to stay true to yourself and providing readers your unique point of view. More power to you!
I’m glad that you didn’t delete your blog. People behind a computer often feel as if they can say hurtful things with no repercussions. I take the good with the bad and let it slide off my back. I’m also happy that you wanted to change while you could still impact your son. Good luck!
What a great story, Andrea. I’m glad you continued blogging and found our group.
p.s. Not all pf bloggers are financial geniuses. I started out by digging out of a big pile of financial mess and found my way out.
Andrea, very glad you didn’t hit delete! Convincing people to change their financial behavior is not always just sharing facts and figures, it’s also about making a change on an emotional level and your experiences certainly helps with that.
Stick with it! No matter what stratosphere of the economic world you live in there is always going to be someone above you and someone below. As long as you believe you can move up…you will!
We’re glad to have you SoOverDebt! Keep on writing and you’re right, your readers will come (I’m sure they already are actually).
Andrea, you have an amazing blog evidenced by your rapid growth in popularity! Thanks for sharing your story – you are an inspiring writer. There will always be naysayers but your parents are absolutely right – keep up that positive attitude.
I really appreciate your point of view and Honesty. As Simon Sinek would say, it’s not the what (“In Debt”) nor is it the how (“Top 10 Apps for saving!”), but the why (“I am telling you this because…”) that inspires people. People are most convinced to take your advice by relating to your story and experience. So don’t doubt yourself for sharing :)
Great post.
I’m glad that email didn’t make you delete your blog! Just by you sharing your story and mistakes, you can help a lot of people who are in a similar position.
Wow, I can’t believe you received such a harsh email, as if not reading wouldn’t have been enough, they had to attack you. Without your struggles, you wouldn’t have gained your perspective, so you probably have more to offer than all of those perfect bloggers anyway. I completely agree with your parents about being a link in the chain of positivity. Good luck to you.
I’m so glad you stuck it out and thanks for sharing your story with us. Anyone who raises a child on their own gets five huge gold stars in my book. Congrats on becoming a Member!!
Thanks so much to all of you for the kind words and warm welcome! I really appreciate the support – I was so nervous about this post!
Congratulations… it is very inspiring for someone who just started out and just began the challenge!
All of us started somewhere! Actually, some of the greatest PF blogs were began by people in a similar situation to your own!
Very inspiring post. Way to keep going despite the negative speed bump – you made the right choice :)
Andrea, it’s great you stuck with it and thanks so much for sharing your story! It takes a lot of guts to admit faults and tackle them to improve.
Life happens, and it’s so true about your title. It’s how you live it and where you end up. Hardship puts everything in perspective, and I truly believe we appreciate life much more this way!
Best, Sam
Fantastic member post! I like how you noted that you’re blogging from your own point of reference, rather than pretending to be something or someone else. That’s really important, and personally I especially appreciate bloggers that take that approach. You have a very relevant, interesting, and informative perspective on personal finance – and it seems as if you’re doing a great job. Great words of wisdom by your parents, by the way!
Nice story way to keep on plugging!
Welcome to the network. Thanks for sharing such an inspiring story. I love your attitude- keep positive and move forward. Great wisdom for all of us.
Really enjoyed this one, thank you! All the best.
Congratulation! I’m glad you didn’t quit. We need more point of views in personal finance. It would be boring if every blogger is a finance expert. It’s the different voices that add color to our network.
I’m so glad that you found the Yakezie group and didn’t delete your blog. Thanks for sharing :) Best wishes on your blogging venture. Look forward to reading more of your work.
Thanks for sharing your story, Andrea! Blogging can be really tough sometimes, and I totally understand how you feel, I too have had the thought of deleting my blog at one time or another, due to hurtful comments. People sometimes think they can say whatever they want with disregard to people’s feelings, when they are hidden behind a monitor :(
I’m glad you continued on, and I’m glad you found the yakezie!
Congratulations and welcome! I enjoyed your story —
Glad you didn’t delete your blog – – – I think we’ve all had those days (and those types of comments too :) Just keep on keepin’ on and best to you!
So hard not to take rude comments personally, but I’m glad you didn’t! For most people, success lies just beyond the point at which they’re convinced they’ve failed. (Edison?)
First of all, your son is adorable. Love those glasses! I’m glad you decided to stick it out and tell your story. Blogging can make you feel pretty vulnerable at times, but I think it helps people to read the stories of those who have persevered and overcome. Congrats!
I’m so glad you decided to stick it out! I enjoy following you on Twitter and enjoy our rants about Wells Fargo as well as student loans. Thanks for sharing your story.
Hi Soover,
Sometimes blogging is pretty thin, but if you stick it out then it is rewarding. :) It’s not easy to share a story where you can be judged, especially being pregnant at 15. I don’t look down on teen moms necessarily, but I despise those that resent the baby or lose all interest in being a mom and only care about partying and drinking with friends. That is where all the negative judgment comes from, so it is hard to avoid being cast within the same group. All that matters though… do you love your son, and will you stand by him? So long as you pick the bright path going forward, then that’s what truly matters. :)
Andrea, I’m so glad you didn’t hit that delete button and found the Yakezie. Welcome!
Welcome Andrea! Posting from your perspective is what makes a blog unique! Thanks for sharing your story.
Andrea, it is good to read your member post. I already knew a lot of this since I read your blog regularly. It is one that I refuse to miss. Even when gone, I have to go back and catch up. I am glad you stuck with it.
Its great reading your story. I’m glad you got involved here cause if you hadn’t…. I wouldn’t have either. Thanks for inspiration!
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