Hi, my name is Dominique, and this member post is severely late. I narrowly missed my chance at being a Yakezie member in the last class, and now I almost blew my shot for the Epsilon class. I need to get my life together.
Let’s start this post over…
Hi, everyone my name is Dominique, and I’m a personal finance blogger who doesn’t quite know what the heck to write about here. Hmm… I’ll tell you about myself, my blog, and more importantly why I started blogging. Ya, you’ll like that wouldn’t you?
About Me
I’m a goofball 80 to 90% of the time. I’m the owner of www.yourfinancessimplified.com, and I literally can find comedy in every situation. I married the love of my life at a seriously young age (by today’s standards). Wait, I have a feeling you know all this stuff already.
Damnit… now I’m rambling.
Let’s just make a list of stuff I think you don’t know
- I am the cool black guy on the podcast “Two Guys and Your Money” with a few other Yakezie members.
- I ghost write / staff write about 25+ articles per month.
- I started a real estate blog recently, which is titled www.insiderrealestatetips.com. I talk about nothing but real estate on this blog.
- I video blog once a week on my youtube channel (about whatever I want).
- I’m writing a book about credit relief.
- I’m having my first child in January.
- My very first job out of college was for 55k, within a year I was at 80k, by 24 I was making over 100k.
- I have a lot of credit cards and 0 credit card debt.
- I own 4 homes.
- I started school early (january baby) and skipped a grade.
- We live on 50% of our income.
- I’m not supposed to be here.
Woah, that last one was a monkey wrench in the list, let me explain.
I grew up in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, 100 dollars from poverty and in a single parent home. My mother was in a weird space, and I talked about this on my blog, where she made too much to be labeled “in poverty” and get assistance but not enough to really make a difference. By that, I mean there were times I ate dinner, and she went hungry. We were really broke.
My father, who I recently connected with, was not in my life. He decided he would rather be heavily involved in narcotics and become a statistic. When my mother was about 6 months pregnant, she abruptly ended their relationship upon finding out about his narcotic secret and never looked back. I thank her for it.
Let’s talk a little bit about my neighborhood. My best friends, who happen to live right next door to me, both had parents addicted to drugs. Several times on my long walk to school I was robbed at gunpoint. Oh, and for some odd reason, everyone I knew thought drugs, robbing, and stealing was normal (that’s scary).
So, I think that last point is starting to sink it now…
Single parent household, crime and drug ridden neighborhood, and no positive male role models.
I’m not supposed to be here.
Why Do You Blog?
The same reason I’m still living today—my mother. You see, she was the one who hid me from the Philadelphia streets. She was the one who taught me that any situation can be overcome. She was and is my role model. To see her go from poor to rich, via hard work, had a major impact on me.
So, when she rose from near poverty to making over 150k per year (before getting married) and then lost it all through a messy divorce I was devastated, helpless, and clueless. I was stuck with the questions of why and how.
Truth be told, I didn’t care about finances until one year before I got married. Shit hit the fan in my mother’s marriage, and I didn’t want that to happen to me. My mother and her now ex-husband did a few things financially that made little to no sense.
- They liquidated their 401k to buy a home.
- They charged up thousands of dollars on their credit cards to buy furniture.
- They never communicated about their money.
- They failed to file taxes.
- They didn’t maintain an emergency fund.
- They purchased a rental property, and then put a relative in it
The list was endless…
So, I started reading about financial topics to help my mother recover from her divorce and be comfortable in retirement, while she still can. The blog came a few years after the divorce, but the reason was the same. I wanted to help my family and friends avoid financial pitfalls by being open and honest about finances.
The best part about all of this is that my blog idea is working. I have more family and friends in tune with their finances than I could imagine.
What’s Next?
Since part 2 of me is on the way, via my little angel (she will be here in January and hopefully on my bday), I feel as though I must press on.
My mother did something for me that I will always be grateful for, she changed our family tree forever. She sent me to college via loans and showed me what sacrifice, dedication, and hard work can produce. So, I owe it to her to build on that.
The reason we live on 50% of our income is called generational wealth building.
The moment it was clear that my daughter will be here in January, my wife and I deposited enough money in a separate account to send her to any school in the nation. We also restructured our financial plan to accommodate a million dollar trust for our daughter by time she is 30.
All this comes from knowing that I’m not supposed to be here.
So, if you see me on twitter goofing off or if you watch my youtube videos, and I’m all jokey jokes, the reason is simple. If you knew you weren’t supposed to be in the amazing place you were in, you would be happy all the time too.
See you guys around!
That is a great story Dominique. Your mother is a special woman and an inspiration, and you should be proud of yourself too for not falling victim to your surroundings. Congrats on the little one…she’ll change your life forever!
I appreciate it Mike. Speaking on the little one, she already has changed my life :-) It’s crazy, how she’s not here and I’m affected.
I find comedy in every situation as well. Congrats…
Thanks… for reading
I almost switched off after the first couple of paragraphs but I’m really glad I didn’t! WOW! One of the most real and inspirational articles I’ve read in a long time.
On personal reflection you’ve picked up the important points. It’s sometimes difficult to inwardly reflect when the “train” is going 100mph, but you’ve obviously done extremely well despite all the statistics.
Congratulations on your bundle of joy! :-)
Hhaha.. I’m glad you stuck around to finish reading it. I figure I give people the part that nobody knows about and thank you for the well wishes.
What an inspirational story. Your mom is wonderful and if only there were more like her all stories would end up this way, with happy endings. Wait, that came out wrong. Well, you know what I mean. ;)
hahahah… You have me over here laughing at the happy endings bit. I agree with you, parents definitely determine the success of your children.
Wow, inspiring story. I’m glad that you’ve made it and can share your story because so many people don’t! Keep up the awesome work!
I’m all too familiar with people not making it. My sisters (Father’s side) there story isn’t turning out too well. Also my two best friends aren’t necessarily model citizens. I’m extremely lucky.
Welcome Dominique and thanks for sharing so much about your story! How inspiring your mother has been on your life. Congrats and nice job on being financially ready for your daughter before she arrives. I wish more couples would be financially secure before starting a family. It helps the kids and the marriage to be prepared!
I owe it to her to be financially ready for her. My wife had a harder upbringing than I and it was our main goal. Change our family tree .
What an incredible story, it’s truly inspiring! If everyone followed your mother’s lead, and now yours, to try and make a better life for their children, what an amazing world we could create.
Hmm you have a point there. I think people try to the best they know how. Growing up in Philly all people knew were violence and poverty. I would be the same if my mother didn’t hide me from that life.
“I am the cool black guy on the podcast “Two Guys and Your Money””
Just to clarify, I’m the cool white guy. Those other dudes are just….uh…..white guys.
Joe, you’re the bald guy :-)
Hi Dominique. I find myself in your same position sometimes, wondering what the heck to write about. Then I just try to be myself, but it’s still tough. It sounds like your parents did some crazy things financially. It sound like I, like you, didn’t get serious about finances until later in life. Do you think your change was mostly due to not wanting to live the life of the bad example’s before you?
Absolutely! My change came from seeing my idol fall and wanting to help her. In turn I helped myself and my future family. There is a lot to be found by seeing someone fail.
Hi Dom, and welcome. Nothing much to say; just that I am really proud to count you amonst my blogging buddies. Well done, you and what a story! I think I’ll print it out and give to my son (111/2) to read.
Whoa.. now that’s an honor. It’s weird when people say they printed one of my articles out and provided to their family. I got a lot of that with my “letter to my unborn child”
Wow. Pretty intense. Certainly not the direction I was expecting when I first read “I’m not supposed to be here.”
Now I’m curious.. what did you think about?
Well, 13 years ago I fell asleep behind the wheel and hit a telephone pole. When the paramedics arrived, they asked me “how are you not dead?”
I was thinking that maybe you had had a similar experience.
Yup.. I had an inception moment. As if my thimble was still spinning or I was 4 levels deep in some crazy dream.
Truly rags to riches, what an incredible story, Dom. Reminds me of Jay-Z’s last song on “The Blueprint” where he tells his story called “Momma Loves Me”. Congrats on making it in, and I’m now heading over to your site, as I’ve somehow missed checking it out.
I love that song.. I prefer Jay-z – No Hook or Jay-z Glory. However, I definitely don’t blame my father. He was controlled by uncontrollable substances. It’s crazy to see how my sisters turned out (the ones who life he was apart of) they didn’t fair to well…
Totally was not implying anything there at all. Sorry to hear about your sisters man :(
Again, congrats on beating the odds in a really big way, and killing it with your online ventures as well.
I didn’t take offense lol.. also no need to be sorry. Everyone was dealt a bad hand, some just choose to live with their bad hand :-).
Cool story bro…
Seriously, very cool story! Life is too short to be cereal about everything.
Mad respect!
Thank you for reading. You’re right life is way too short… YOLO responsibly :-)
Very cool story. In a way I am not supposed to be here either. I don’t quite have the income you do but we live in a small city where housing and cost of living isn’t too high. I did grow up poor, like yourself Dominique. http://sustainablepersonalfinance.com/mom-knows-best-financial-advice-by-example/
Growing up poor is to grow up fast.. I really didn’t have a chance to make too many mistakes in life. Living life with 1 shot rather than multiple shots is definitely different. I’m still amazed I’ve made it this far.
Hey Dominique, you had me almost shedding a tear! heheh. its an honor to know your story and yourself. I was a bit emotional back there while reading through your article, about your mom and all her sacrifices for you. I salute your mother as i do mine. Your story of success is very inspirational and heart warming. I wish you all the best and congratulations on finally being a father. Welcome to the club! God bless you and everyone in here.
Thank for reading and the well wishes. The hardest part about all this is I feel as though I’m not successful yet, as if I still have a long way to go. Not sure if that’s my upbringing or personality talking. However, I measure success on how far my daughter goes in life. Weird huh? or maybe that’s the new father in me speaking.
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…speechless. I haven’t connected enough with your site and had no idea of your story. What an amazing journey and a great outlook. Our past and upbringing truly shape who we are and the lessons we learn along the way can teach us great things, define our purpose in life, and give us something to push for.
Upbringing and parenting are very very important. If I had 2 bad parents instead of 1.. I wouldn’t be here
Wow Dom, that’s quite the story. I’m glad you were able to pick this path, and I’m glad to have met you digitally (and been on the podcast with you!). Here’s to your online and real estate endeavors – may your daughter never have to worry about cash growing up (although I’m sure she’ll be responsible!).
Hahah.. nice to E- meet you ask well PK. As far as my daughter, she will be fine. She won’t know what a hard life is and I’m glad for that :-). Oh.. you better believe that trust will be revocable and have a tone of contingencies in it :-) .
Amazing Story Dom! Are you connected to any of those kids from neighborhood? Did they all become a statistic as well?
Every younger kid I used to walk to school (as I got older) is doing hard time in prison for narcotics or some other form of felony. My 2 next door neighbors.. 1 went the illegal route the other is a blue collar.
Want an amazing story of faith and determination. Paying it forward is so invaluable. I’m glad to see you were able to fight the statistics and become a role model and motivator for others.
Thank you.. I owe it all to my mother for being a positive role model. Sometimes you only need a ray of hope to make it.
Great read Dominique. I now feel like I know you in some way :) Do you remember a point in your life where you could have gone down a different path? I too love your outlook on life. You live with purpose instead of letting life take you where it wills, which I’m betting is a character trait passed on from your Mom. Best of luck.
Nope. My thought process was a bit different. I never wanted to dissapoint my mom and I didn’t quite understand criminals. I remember one time talking to a friend who I knew sold drugs (weed) I asked him, how many hours he worked per day and after doing some quick calculations and factoring risks it amounted to him making 2-3x less than minimum wage. All while putting his life at risks.. nope makes absolutely 0 sense to me.
Wow your life is interesting. Now I understand where that humor of yours comes from :) You’re such an inspiring story, seriously, you should be a role model for many kids. – and adults.
I hope to be.. I can only be myself and I might rub a few people the wrong way with my frankness and weird sense of humor :-)
Welcome to the network, Dominique, and congratulations to you and the Mrs. on your little bundle of joy and poop. Good on you planning on planning a good start in life.
thank you for the warm welcome! hahah at bundle of joy and poop.
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Dom, fantastic Member Post! Your story is a reminder of why I’m an optimist. Life didn’t make things easy for you and your parents, but you didn’t complain, took charge, and made something better!
Going through hardship really builds character. There are those who choose to move forward, and those who decide to wallow. Blogging is as close to a true meritocracy as I’ve ever seen in this day and age. Anybody can go to the public library, register a blog for free and start connecting with people. I hope you continue to write and record for a very long time.
You discuss about your message that has reached your friends about personal finance. The ability for bloggers to make a positive difference is what it’s all about!
Best,
Sam
Thanks Sam! I also noticed you posted recently about optimism and it wasn’t received so well, by a few people. What the heck was that about?
Love the story Dom! I’ve been reading a lot of posts lately, some of who write in the most depressing ways, and some like yours and Sam’s posts who are so uplifting!
What do you say to people who always look towards the negative side of things? How about people who always wave some type of disability card or whatever to gain people’s sympathy? Why do they do it and why don’t realize if they keep such attitudes, they will always be stuck in their pitiful ways?
Rachel
I’m not sure what to say for people who seek sympathy. I can only do what works for me. I like solving problems rather than crying about them. It’s about progress…
Thanks for sharing your remarkable story with us Dom. Your Mom was a positive role model for you and you are now that role model for your own child. Congratulations on making such positive choices Dom!
Thank you! I just wish my friends were so lucky..
Amazing story! And unfortunately for 1 in 3, they will not end up like you. I’m sure you know the stat. So congrats for subverting the dominant paradigm. Oh yeah, and I really like the way you write!
I think you ARE supposed to be here…to share your story, to give us good advice and keep everyone in a positive mood. And to remind us to get our dose of bad television! You have really accomplished a lot in such a short time, and congratulations on your growing family!
Dom- awesome story….thanks for sharing and congrats on (finally) becoming a member!
Congratulations on becoming a member. Man, and even more congratultions on your baby coming soon! When my first little girl was born, it changed my whole freaking life. In a good way. Good luck man and congratulations!
What a story! I only know you from the podcast and your gender reveal video — you’re a lot of fun, and it’s awesome to see how far you’ve come. Sounds like you’re already a good dad!
Excellent story, we are definitely better for having you. Haven’t interacted much with you but would love to see more of you and get to know you! I’m also one to try to find humor in everything, much to the oft embarrassment of my wife :)
Amazing story, Dominique! You’ve really come a long way… and congrats on becoming a member. :)
That is an awesome. Mom’s have the power to shape lives like no one else. I’m blessed to have a parent like yours, and thank my lucky stars everyday.
Your daughter is a lucky girl already.
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