Who inspires you?
Is that too serious a question to begin a Yakezie new member post? Perhaps, but it’s extremely relevant for me because I think about this every time I sit down to write. Dwelling on this keeps my writing focused on my mission. Above all, as noted here on Yakezie recently, it allows writing to be fun, knowing that it serves a higher purpose than just benefiting me.
In case you don’t know, my name is Brian and I blog at a site called Luke1428. For those wondering where that name came from, you can find the short story behind it here. It certainly fits with all things related to personal finance and successfully pursuing life goals once you understand the context.
To answer the question, I derive my inspiration from four sources. Those of you that have followed my writing know Luke1428 has a religious bent to it’s content. I am a Christian and work my thoughts into some of my writing, most notably my Hidden Nuggets Series, which highlights money related themes from the Bible and their relationship to contemporary cultural issues. My relationship with God has been a true blessing in my life and I think about what might or might not honor Him every time I write.
My faith teaches me that one of my highest callings is to serve others. That’s a huge reason I started writing in the first place. Nothing can be more personally gratifying than giving of oneself to touch other people’s lives. Knowing that the words I write may impact someone for good keeps me inspired each day.
I have four awesome pieces of inspiration, scurrying around our home. Right now, it’s raining on our school’s first day of spring break and they are all downstairs watching TV, keeping it quiet so this can be written without distraction. (Ahh…the quietness of a house with four kids is a moment to cherish.) Even more so to cherish though, is the gratification I receive knowing my words are being taken in by their little eyes and ears eager to learn about life and money.
My last source of inspiration has been with me for 18 years. She’s the reason my blog exists. And it wasn’t due to her words only…her actions were truly inspiring.
Our Family Transition
Four years ago, my wife decided her career as a teacher was coming to an end. She taught upper level math at the private school where I was serving as principal. She was excellent at that role, but felt something was missing from her life. Teaching simply wasn’t igniting a fire anymore.
She was always preaching to her kids saying, “Hey, anything is possible. Students with excellent math ability can pursue incredible careers.” At some point, the message she had been impressing on the kids turned around and fired back at her. “Why not me?” she said after dinner one night. “Why can’t I be the one pursuing a dream?”
We first began by looking at teacher related fields, like in-house and online tutoring. That wasn’t satisfying the itch. She thought about being an actuary but that would have likely meant moving, as demand in our area is not high.
Then one night I said, “What about becoming an accountant, a CPA?” She paused and a twinkle flashed from her eye. I knew we were onto something.
For starters, she had to go back to school. This required taking a few undergrad programs simply to get into her Master’s program. That was instant frustration right off the bat.
Our plan was for her to continue teaching while she pursued her degree. Much to our surprise, she was offered a position at an accounting firm, through a close friend who knew of her intended career path. So now, in addition to being a student again, she was dealing with a new job.
For her to take that new position required a huge sacrifice on my part. I agreed to step down from my principal position of 10 years and move into the classroom to simply teach. With her extended work hours, plus nights and weekends devoted to study, someone had to be responsible for the kids and overseeing the house. That became me, as I was glad to make the sacrifice for her to pursue this dream.
The new career and schoolwork was nothing compared to what took place when she began to study for the CPA exam. In case you are unaware, this is one of the toughest professional exams around, with a pass/fail rate near 50%. She dove in with abandon. I’ve never seen anyone so focused on passing a test. She passed all four parts on the first try and it wasn’t even close.
In this short post, I can’t begin to describe how difficult the transitional journey was. I’ll get more detailed in the e-book I write one day. Needless to say, it was excruciatingly hard on many days when you only had 30 minutes to interact with your wife.
However, in one of those brief moments as we talked about our dreams on a cold, winter night, she asked me, “Why don’t you start writing a blog and share your ideas about personal finance?”
Overcoming the Fear
My first reaction was gut-wrenching fear, quickly followed by an unequivocal “No, I don’t think so.” Why would I put myself out there (wherever “there” was) and risk ridicule and rejection? I’m safe right here.
Then came the excuses built out of my fear:
“Besides I don’t even know what a blog is.”
“I won’t have time to write now that I’ve taken over the house responsibilities.”
“Why would anyone listen to me? I’m nobody.”
“We can’t deal with anymore change right now. Your deal is enough for the moment.”
So the blog idea quickly found a place in File 13.
However, when I wasn’t looking, my wife removed the crumpled remains of the idea from the trashcan. Over the next few months, she kept gently prodding and encouraging me with the idea. There was no badgering. She simply knew I had it in me.
I only had to believe and want it myself.
The Blog Is Born
Two years into my wife’s journey, I started Luke1428. So what changed? How did I overcome the fear?
A large part was simply the passage of time. Giving it some time allowed me to process my feelings about it. It also let me start reading blogs to understand what they were and to see how people interacted with one another. (Note – the feedback on a personal finance blog is a lot different than what you find on a Yahoo or ESPN message board. Who knew?)
However, I was mostly inspired by my wife’s fearlessness when it came to her journey. I had seen her not give in, lose sight of the goal or succumb to tired moments when her emotions were shot. She was succeeding in marvelous ways and it simply led me full circle to the same conclusion that started her journey, “Why can’t I do something extraordinary and out of my comfort zone also?”
So, thank you to my wife Kim for being my biggest earthly inspiration. I could not have completed this challenge without your example and encouragement along the way.
To Where From Here?
I don’t know where my blog journey will take me. At this point, I’m proud and thankful to be part of this network. I appreciate the support I’ve received at my blog from the members here and am looking forward to getting to know more of you in the days to come.
I know there is much for me to learn, especially when it comes to the technical aspects of blogging that lead to its growth. I’m still pretty green in those areas, as I simply haven’t had the time to devote to learning about it. With all my duties at work, the kids and the house, writing alone has consumed what time I have left.
For those who haven’t made a connection with me yet, I can be found at Twitter, Facebook and of course at my site. Thanks again, to Sam and the membership committee for bringing me into the fold.
Who inspires you to change? What was your biggest fear in starting a blog? What other obstacles did you have to overcome? Other than networking and guest posting, what strategies/methods/tools have you used to grow your blog?
Howdy Brian,
Welcome to the Yakezie Network! Thanks for sharing your story about your wife’s decision to change careers and take some risks. I love those type of stories.
It really is about team work isn’t it?
I have to imagine a blog has become sort of a savior to many parents or individuals who spend a lot of time at home to take care of kids, an elder, or some dependent. I’m very thankful to have my blog as a place to connect.
Best of luck on the rest of your journey and congrats again!
Sam
It really is about teamwork Sam. I know Kim could not have made her career transition without my help or for that matter our children. All the kids helped around the house and my oldest son really got involved with helping my wife study for the CPA exam. He would quiz her on terms and paragraphs of information that she had to memorize word for word. It was pretty cool to see him tell her “No, you missed the word “the” in that paragraph. Say it again.”
Sounds like you got some good kids. It’s amazing how change is so constant in our lives.
I really enjoyed your story Brian. I love how you and your wife continue to encourage each other to grow. I think that personal development is something that we should never stop striving for.
My biggest fear in starting a blog was the same, “Why? Who would listen to me?” With all of the great blogs out there that have huge established followings, who would bother reading my thoughts. I felt late to the game, so to speak. But I think what got me to start was just wanting to comment on those other blogs and continue the dialogue. It’s a decision I’m glad I made, even if my blog doesn’t gain much traction it’s still something I can say I did, and more importantly, I enjoyed.
I’m still working on the growth part of my blog and the hardest struggle that I have is with the self promotion and social media. Those just aren’t my strong suits, but I am just going to be persistent and keep at it. The easiest way to fail is to not try.
I’ve struggled with self-promotion and social media also Zee. Part of that is the introvert in me…part is the time commitment it takes…part is I’m not sure everything I should be doing. It’s frustrating when you don’t know what you don’t know…if that makes sense.
Happy to have you as a member Brian! It is well deserved. I started my blog just because I wanted to share my story in order to help anyone that could use it. I am glad I did and now I am just expanding. Who knows where it will go, but I am happy to be along for the ride!
Thanks Grayson. I appreciate you hanging around my site and sharing your wisdom in the past year.
Wow Brian, quite a story! That’s incredible that you made the career adjustment that you did to help your wife and meet the needs of your family. I can’t even imagine the time involved raising four kids, especially with your wife heavily involved in those big commitments. The CPA is super intense as you said. One of my friends did it while working and it was so taxing (pun intended ;) ) on him even without any kids. So props to you both.
I had many of the same fears you had when I started and I’m glad you’ve been able to come into your own and stick with it. Congrats on becoming a Member!
It was very intense. She would come home from work and study until about midnight most evenings. Then of course 5-6 hours on weekends. Really left little time to do much else. We had to sacrifice a lot for about 18 months while she worked her way through the four different sections of the exam but it was all worth it in the end.
Welcome to the club, Brian, and well done. It felt wonderful to read your story and all the support you’ve given your wive and care for your kids. Also, I had to laugh when I read you didn’t know what is a blog (when I started I asked my husband and couldn’t understand what he was on about).
It seems like I should have known as popular as they have become in contemporary culture. Reading blogs had just never been on my radar screen before.
Hi Brian, Best of luck. Glad you are enjoying the writing. It’s the quite important :) if you’re blogging. Welcom
Thanks Barbara. I was very nervous when I first started, wondering whether I would enjoy this much writing or not. Took me about 6 months to really hit my groove and find what worked for me.
Congratulations Brian, proud fellow member of the Theta class! I really enjoyed your post, and think your blog serves a real purpose. Your commitment to your family is awesome, and I wish you continued success both personally and professionally.
Appreciate it Eliza. Congrats as well, on your inclusion in this class.
Congrats on becoming a part of the network! I enjoyed your story. By the way, while I’m no longer in accounting, back in the day I also prepared for the CPA exam while working full-time. In other words, I can relate to what she went through!
Haha…it is crazy…especially that one spring where she was doing tax season, school and studying for one part of the exam all at the same time period. Brutal…I wasn’t quite sure I was married we didn’t see each other so much.
That’s so awesome, Brian! Congratulations :-) We are certainly big fans of Luke1428 and wish you continued inspiration & success. Your story with Kim resonates with us, especially because of the partnership you have. We always talk about marriage is a partnership – first and foremost. We’re excited to see the evolution of your blog in the future :-) Congrats again!
Thanks a bunch! I appreciate you helping me reach this goal by frequenting my sight. I love your perspective and enthusiasm towards helping others.
Welcome Brian, and well done on the team work. You guys are lucky to have each other.